Sunday, September 30, 2012

A busy weekend!

Saturday, we went to see the parade at the Liberty Fall Festival.  We celebrated Momma and Dada's 22nd anniversary.  That night we went to Regina's 40th Birthday party!
On Sunday, I decided to see if I liked to color.
It was hard work so I needed a drink box.
Coloring is sooooooo much fun!
Leroy, my sock monkey, likes to color too!
Leroy likes to wear my shoes!
He kissed me while playing on my new jungle gym.
We decided that walking in the grass isn't so scary anymore!
It was nice outside,  we decided to have a picnic lunch!

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Harper's Favorite Things

My new princess castle!
Mini drumstick ice cream cones!
Riding my zebra named Stripes
Driving my Cozy Coupe!
Helping Momma with laundry
Snuggling with Hello Kitty
Eating doughnut holes from Lamar's
Playing doctor with Teddy
Playing outside!


 

Saturday, September 15, 2012

If you think Chinese orphanages are full of healthy baby girls, read this...


Chinese adoption has changed drastically in the past 10 years.  Most people who discuss Chinese adoption with me are unaware of these changes, so I thought I would share some information.  This information is from Amy Eldridge of Love Without Boundaries.  
There have been immense changes in China adoption in the past 10 years.  The landscape has changed considerably from the days when Chinese orphanages were filled with healthy infant girls who had been abandoned because of the government's one child policy and the social preference for boys.  Now, the orphanages are filled with special needs kids, many critically ill.  Over 98% of newly abandoned children in China have serious medical needs, which explains why 60% of adoptions in 2010 were special needs adoption.

Why the significant change?  First, there has been a growth in more modern attitudes about girls.  It is really only in the rural areas that the social preference for boys remains.  Ten years ago, 85% of the Chinese population lived in rural areas.  Now, only 50% are rural and 50% are urban.  With that urbanization has come more education, the internet, and the like, which has led to more modern attitudes.  Second, there has been growth in the availability of ultrasound technology.  Now, anyone who is pregnant can know the child's sex.  Anyone who carries a girl to term does so knowingly and with every intention of parenting her.  Those who want a boy instead will have an abortion.  Third, domestic adoption in China is growing rapidly.  This was caused in part by the public interest in adoption after all the news reporting about the orphans of the Sichuan earthquake.  And another factor is the increased rate of infertility in China.  One government agency estimates that as many as 40 million couples in China are infertile.  Infertility is skyrocketing because of increased premarital sex without much sex education, causing increased rates of STDs and frequent abortions that might be less than sterile and because of environmental toxins and pollution. 
Domestic adoption is preferred by orphanage directors, because domestic adopters pay higher fees than international adopters.  In Guangzhou, domestic adopters pay fees of $15,000 to the orphanage (foreign adopters pay $6,000);  in Hefei, the fee is $7,000 for domestic adopters.  Most adoptions are handled on the county or provincial level, even though the CCAA now has a national office of domestic adoption.  Orphanages just don't send the files of healthy infants for international adoption when they can place the child domestically.

So, for these reasons, there are fewer and fewer healthy infant girls available for international adoption.  And there has been skyrocketing abandonment of special needs children.  One reason for that is the increase in children in China born with birth defects.  Birth defects in China have increased 40% since 2001. It is estimated that 1 in 8 to 10 children born in China have birth defects.  There are a number of theories about why the rate of birth defects is so high in China, but most believe it is environmental exposure -- after all, in a recent list of the 20 "dirtiest" cities in the world, 16 of them were Chinese cities.  In one area of Shaanxi Province, where there is considerable coal production and other environmental hazards, it's reported that the birth defect rate is 85%.

Special needs children get abandoned because of the stigma associated with disabilities and/or because of medical costs.  Extended family, especially the mother-in-law, will insist that a disabled child be abandoned because the child is considered unlucky, a curse on the family.  Children with visible disabilities will be refused education, and when they grow up will have difficulty finding a job. Medical costs can be too high for a family to bear -- there is no health insurance, no free health care in China.  All health care has to be paid for up front.  Even if you're in an accident, you won't be treated until your family shows up to pay the bill first.  There are no emergency rooms in China.  Poor families will abandon their children in the hopes that they will receive health care in the orphanage.
The poorest orphanages in China might get from the government only $25 per child per month, and formula could cost $20 per child per month.  Then there are salaries for nannies, power, clothes, other food, and there isn't much left over for medical care.

According to China Daily, in 2011 there were 31,424 adoptions in China.  Of these 27,579 children were placed with Chinese families and 3,854 were placed overseas.

We are so incredibly blessed by Harper's addition to our family.  When we chose to adopt her, we were told she had a special need that would present lifelong issues.  We are so happy to learn that she is 100% healthy!  This is definitely the exception for an international adoption from China.  We couldn't be happier with our precious new baby.

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Everything is perfect!

Harper is doing so well!!!  She is so happy!  She is sleeping from 8pm to 7am and napping from 12pm to 2pm.  She will eat nearly anything we give her, except for mashed potatoes.  She is affectionate, cheerful, bubbly, imaginative, funny, loving, bright, and just plain adorable.  She's still a bit withdrawn in new situations, but is very comfortable at home and loves being the center of attention.  I think we have a little ham on our hands.
Learning to brush teeth
Playing with cousin Emma
Playing at the park with Daddy
Baking cookies with Momma
Playing ball
Trying out my new wagon at Watkins Mill

Here is our little ham showing off some of the silly faces she makes:





Saturday, September 1, 2012

One week home

It's hard to believe we have only been home for one week.  Harper feels like she has been a part of the family forever!  We have settled into a nice "normal" life.  She is 20 months old today.  We've had a busy week with lots of visitors, a trip to the doctor, an appointment for labs (they took 6 vials of blood), and a visit with the social worker.  China requires that we complete several post placement visits over the next 5 years.  The first visit must be completed and translated to Chinese within 30 days of the placement.  Since we spent our first 2 weeks together in China, we had to quickly complete the first home study visit after our return.
We have had LOTS of great news this week!  The doctor said that Harper is completely healthy and there is no "special need" at all.  Developmentally, she tested like any other  20 month old baby would.  We were told to expect her to perform like a 12 month old since she has been institutionalized her entire life.  But once again, this little fighter proved everyone wrong!
She can now say Hi, Momma, Dadda, dog, and ball.  She shakes her head yes or no.  She understands when we tell her no, don't touch, and recognizes many other words like more or banana.  She puckers up to give kisses and even offers unsolicited kisses!
On my first day home, we went to Wal-Mart.
At first, I played in the baby pool.
But now, I prefer the big pool!
Here are my new besties Stella and Elizabeth!
I'm still not sure about these things they call dogs.
I love playing with my purse.
The park was much more fun than getting blood drawn!
I learned to climb all the way up the stairs.
But I haven't quite figured out how to come DOWN the stairs!
My daddy ALWAYS makes me laugh!